Conceiving and healthy pregnancy in the forties … sadly, women we see are desperate about being in their late 30’s and 40’s and their presumed inability to get pregnant.
Yet other women in this same age group stop using birth control for the identical reason--they've been told they're infertile-- and find themselves with unplanned pregnancies. Did you know this age group seeks abortions as frequently as teens?
Can we stop passing around the notion that women in their forties are infertile?
Chinese medicine tells us that we are capable of conception and childbearing up until menopause.
I was organizing my email recently and came across this note and I wanted to share it ... Not because it is unusual, but because it is typical!
“I want to thank you both so much because I really feel like the acupuncture, the massage, and the supportive/optimistic energy at Oriens helped me get pregnant (when my doctor told me I had only a 5% chance of conceiving naturally . . .”
The only thing truly unusual about this email, is that the doc had given her 5% odds. Our patients often have received worse prognoses than that. A few times I’ve had patients tell me that their doc told them they had less than 1% chance. And yet…Life comes through when circumstances are right.
What about the statistics? They reflect data related to reproductive medical clinic outcomes, based on couples experiencing difficulty who seek help -- not couples world-over. And for many couples, thankfully high tech exists! At Oriens, we thoroughly enjoy partnering with great RE’s for IVF, IUI and natural IVF—a phenomenal combination where the couple prepares through natural medicine and then benefits from high tech.
There's no question that the ease of achieving healthy pregnancy declines with age, particularly in the forties. But we also know that Mother Nature does not serve her best eggs first. So what remains in the reserve is often viable. And we know that the environment in which eggs mature (nutrient and blood supply, etc.) contributes to "good" and "bad" eggs, as well as to the quality of the uterine environment for an embryo and child. So we focus here, on what we can influence, to nurture fertility and increase the odds.
Since Nature has not quite caught up with modernism, women in their forties typically have more to accept, forgive and invest in, in order to lay their claim on motherhood. But they are not infertile. As we delay child-bearing until we find love, or create financial security, or until we have the maturity to fully appreciate the miracle of family….more is required to balance the body and bring fertility forward.
We need to adjust our diets, we need to face our fears about it “not happening” so the body can relax into the knowledge that we will be OK whether we do or don’t have a biologic child—and free up energy for reproduction that is siphoned into fear management. We need to get more blood flow to the ovaries and uterus, we need to balance hormones. Sometimes we need medical procedures to clear the path.
Acupuncture, Nutrition, Maya Abdominal Massage, , self-care routines, counseling that leads to self-knowledge and trust. These are not just preparations for conception and healthy pregnancy. They are investments…in a healthy body, in a peaceful spirit, in a calm mind. A kind of deep strength emerges, a vibrancy—fertility showing herself! Wow!...what preparation for motherhood! And what lucky children to be loved by such moms!
Speak privately with Elizabeth about Your Fertility Challenge 212-213-5785
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